“Marriage is a commitment”
Being that I married my high-school sweetheart you can say we have grown together literally. From high-school home-comings, prom, football games, baseball games, watching our siblings grow, long distance relationship, hardship, break ups , marriage, business, babies, new homes, heart ache, etc.
You name we have been through it. If you have been married over 10 years you know exactly what I mean.
I wouldn’t have it any other way. I believe that marriage teaches you a lot about yourself. It teaches you your strengths and weakness. It teaches you to serve, show grace, love, forgive, pivot, grow up, sacrifice, communicate, pray, patience……
To me it’s a COMMITMENT!!! I have only seen commitment from both sides of our families. There is no divorce on either side of our families. We saw our families love & fight for their marriage. I’m not saying divorce is bad. There are many reasons that make divorce okay. Things happen we are all human. There is alcohol, drug abuse, abusive relationships, affairs, etc… so much that can cause & justify divorce. But in my eyes just because it gets tough or because your not in love doesn’t seem like a reason.
I believe in fighting for marriages & commitment.
Some of the tips I have that have kept us together for over “17” years:
- Laugh a lot & don’t sweat the small stuff.
- Marry your best friend. Sex is important but it’s not the reason you marry someone. That can fade.
- Don’t harp on everything!
- Be kind to each other.
- Say I love you & give each other a hug when the other one needs it.
- Pray together before bed
- Forgive & remember none of us are perfect. God is the only perfect one.
- Assume Good will about the other partner.
- Apologize quickly & sometimes you have to say sorry even if you aren’t at fault to move on.
- See the best in your partner don’t see the flaws
I have so much more to learn but that’s what we have learned so far.
What have you learned so far being married or in your relationships?
Farmers Wife & Heels